Liars shouldn't talk about love!

LOVE.... whoever says it is easy has never been in love before! I think this might possibly be the hardest thing we will ever do in life. Okay so maybe your disagreeing with me right now but that's okay, your allowed to. The question is why? why is it the hardest thing, when you think of being in love nobody ever thinks okay so what will we be working at today. No, you think butterflies in your tummy, grins that only he or she can produce, that heart skipping a beat when you see there name pop up on your phone, i love yous and tons and tons of kisses. That is the easy 'fairy tale' part of being in love. After a few months when your no longer embarrassed if you burp in front of him, or if you kiss first thing when your eyes open even with morning breath, that's when the work comes into play. Its now time to decide if what you have is worth fighting for and keeping the spark and connection alive. Now it takes patience, selflessness, putting their needs before yours, thinking before you speak (which i have a huge problem with), figuring out when to be the first to say I'm sorry. All the hard things that nobody teaches you, you kinda just have to learn them on your own. 


The number one 'problem' which is never a problem in the beginning stages of love is communication!!!!!! I have found that the key thing to a lasting relationship, well wait a second I probably should say the key thing that tears couples apart is no communication. Seeings how I haven't really had a 'lasting' relationship yet. In saying that though that has been my problem in the past, we never talked, there was never a 'hey! how was your day" or a "look this is why I'm mad...". Without that you wont go far I, myself am very vocal. I always say how I feel, even if its not the nicest thing. Sometimes you just have to be blunt and honest. But when you get nothing in return you soon find your arguing with yourself. Then what you thought was until the end of time is now until you sign these papers. I hate when people shut down and don't just say it like it is. I need and want to know why you feel the way you do and why your mad at me. So I can work on it and if it's truly my fault I want to change that. Nobody wants to stay a certain way if its a bad thing.  Not to mention see after so many little disagreements and holding it all in, then comes one HUGE fight and you explode on me out of nowhere over something dumb like not going to sit on the beach. When the reason I didn't go there is because you said you didn't like to sit on the beach, so by me putting you first and not dragging you out there, you get mad at me. How does that even make sense. Like I'm still confused... 


You wanna know whats the scary part and difference between being married and just being in a relationship? The fact that in a marriage you can get extremely pissed off and even leave for a few hours or hey even a night but your coming home for sure. Well just being in a relationship is super scary for me. At any moment a simple argument can turn into "I'm done" and it really be over for good. There's really no safety or security anymore, no matter how much you love each other, no matter how long you've been together. Let me tell you, after some trial and error you learn quick whats worth fighting over and whats not and just let it slide. However I apparently like to throw it all out and deal with it when its current so I don't have to sit on it and think. But as I said in my last post... I'm learning, trying hard to fix those things. 


The most important thing I think is you have to both take the time to try and figure out each other. Men and women are so soo sooo different. I am your typical woman for instance; This sky wheel down in myrtle beach well I've been wanting to ride it and haven't yet. Okay, well here's my thinking on it.. In my head now that I have voiced I want to go ride it several times, I'm thinking okay its a simple cheap way to show me you want to do things that make me happy, so you surprise me one night and lets ride down there grab something simple to eat, and go ride it. Ta Da!! super simple!! well I guess in a mans mind it goes something like this; if she wants to ride it then she'll ask me to lets go one night, she'll say where were eating and that's that. Or she'll go with her friends if she really wants to go. Hello!!! wrong! I want to go for the first time with you, because you are what makes it special. You, are who I want to spend my time with. If I wanted to just ride it and not care I would have been there the day it opened with whom ever.